What is a Switch

I used to get asked all the time if I would switch for clients. They would say things like you have a lovely bottom, "I bet you would like it spanking". Or they would be tied up with the balls about to explode with excitement.

I remember one client saying to me as he was tied down on a bondage table that he was so excited and if he had not been tied down he said "my cock would be so far up my snatch if I wasn't tied down. I think I have died and gone to heaven". And I laughed and said "well its a good job your tied down isn't it".

I used to just laugh and smile and I always remain very firmly in control in session whatever I do.

I have seen so many Dominatrix's and Mistresses come and go. Some who claim to be Doms and many who are just submissives at heart. Some are so full of themselves believing their own superiority, they just might topple over in their high heels if they are not careful.

I don't have a massive ego.  I never will.  But I do know what I am good at.

We all need a balance. Don't think for one session I haven't switched. When I first made Slave h he said he was a submissive. I believed him. I had never switched before bit I decided I could trust him and I did switch in the d/s relationships. But he started to get full of his boots and his true colours showed through not just in the bedroom but outside. He was in fact a very angry nasty man that was using a number of tools to get me sucked in all under the guise of being a submissive.

I am an intelligent woman so I am not going to beat myself up for falling in love with the wrong man, but needless to say he wasn't what he appeared to be on the label. I have always tried to see the good in people but I finally realised that sometimes some people just are not that nice and my healing really was over when I read this book.

www.womenwholovepsychopaths.com

Maybe there is a bit of a psychopath in all of us but I didn't feel like the gullible target I felt after the humiliation and rejection I felt when I discovered what he had been doing while we were together. 

I saw my relationship with slave h as a journey.  I also realised through my journey of healing that it was OK to switch if it was consensual although I can honestly say 90 per cent of my sessions are domination sessions.

If your a switch be proud say it on your website. I know many excellent switches who are proud of what they do. Such as Miss Cameo, Lady Sonia, Mistress Sedonia and Lady Nina Birth from the English Mansion. 

But lets be honest what about those that aren't honest. Don't you think a client is going to get a shock when he finds his so called dominant mistress with another website advertising as a submissive. Or how about when he finds out that their other half is beating the shit out of them or abusing them emotionally. She might not look so dominant after all.

And what about those so called subs that come to see Mistresses who are absolute bar stewards outside. Doing the rounds going to see prostitutes. Perhaps they are married and treating their other halfs like doormats whilst on the surface being the nice submissive to their mistress. Many of the clients I knew were getting their rocks off having gay sex under the guise of forced bi (because Mistress made me do it) when their partner has no idea. Which is why I DO NOT do forced bi sessions anymore.