Relationships

Being in a D/S relationship can be challenging and confusing. I should know I have been a Mistress for a while. I once had a partner who was submissive and  our relationship our roles and roles changed somewhat. He has found himself to be more confident, more outgoing and far more dominant!.  However because of his negative core beliefs about himself and when the relationship finally broke down and I finished with him.  He reverted back to his old ways and worse. 

Problems occur if one partner wants one thing and the other wants something else. It can get even more complicated if one partner has no idea what the other is wanting/thinking especially in the case of BDSM where guilt and fear often hinder a discussion.  Broaching what could be a minor subject like licking your wife's feet if you have a foot fetish might feel like a huge obstacle; let alone asking your girlfriend to use a strap-on on you!.

It’s a minefield that can be easily walked through with guidance, especially when you understand where your desires stemmed from originally and more importantly where you plan on taking them.

Doing the rounds with Mistresses for years may be one thing trying out the next thing to “get your kick” but how much nicer would it be if you could have incorporated some kind of sane consensual play into your current relationship

Then there are the "Non starters" who don’t even have a relationship for whatever reason.  No matter what you do you just cannot get that girlfriend.  You are 39 and still living with your mum!  I have even chatted to a couple of 40 year old virgins.  It’s usually down to lack of confidence and not being able to read women.  You may still be submissive but it doesn’t mean you can’t get a girlfriend.  It’s my job to help and guide you. 

And finally lets consider communication. We are all as a country soooooo “anal”. Most people don't know their G spot from their little finger. But seriously though, people don’t talk. They don’t talk about their feelings, their sexual desires about anything much.  Most of the time couples work all day.  They ignore each other when they get home and plonk themselves in front of the TV until its time to go to bed then play happy families on the annual holiday.   It you want a relationship to work, it's time to start talking. Its only when we start facing our deepest fears that we really start to understand that its not so scary after all.

If you want to see me with your wife or girlfriend then I have another site I can direct you to that won’t shock so easily.

This is how not to do relationships LOL