Gender and Sexuality

There are all types of genders and sexuality.  Male, female, straight, bi sexual, gay, lesbian and if you are like me and have been to Thailand on a couple of occasions you might even consider there to be a third gender, ladyboys. 

I fully understand sexuality and gender issues from my own experience and my own relationship.

With so much emphasis on the one hand with gays being cool whereas at the other end of the scale we have cultures like the middle east where its just not acceptable to say you are gay but its considered ok to penetrate anally its no wonder everyone is so confused.

We in the west, and especially in Britain, are so anal about our sexuality.  The term “forced bi” for example made me chuckle every time I am emailed a request for a session.  Often a submissive would go see a Mistress for anal penetration for a number of different reasons.  It could be the whole power exchange whereby the woman takes on the man’s role.  It could be because the man wants to humiliated and taken back to a time when he was abused at public school but feels more comfortable with a woman doing it because its shameful.  It could be that he just likes the idea of "role reversal" whereby the woman takes on the man's role.  It could be that he has issues about his sexuality and really wants a real man but wraps it up into something it is not and its only a matter of time before the “forced bi” issue comes up. 

I have never in all my time of dominating apart from once did a real "forced bi" session.  Sorry to say that but it really is true and really is in the mind.  Unless the woman really enjoys watching two men performing for her, which does occasionally happen.  No matter what way you look at it it’s usually not "forced" and its usually because the submissive wants it deep down. 

There was a sub that used to come and see me regularly.  He told me he was very “hetro” and said he would do whatever Mistress ordered.  He was married and his wife had no idea he played away.  One day I could not do a session I had promised.  He was to be on the giving and receiving end for “Mistress's pleasure”.  When I told him the other client had not shown up I got a text saying.  “oh well it's off to the gay sauna for me tonight".  It does not take much to figure out that he had big issues about his sexuality but was trying to wrap it up under the guise of domination which is very common

Coming to terms with your sexuality can be challenging.  Nothing is cut and dried for example it is a very big misconception that cross dressers are all gay.  I should know I have met many of them. 

Whatever your gender/sexuality issues, you will not shock me and I will be able to guide you in a most sympathetic way.  If it is something that may need more professional help such as counselling or for example transgender issues where you may be considering a sex change then I will refer you on to a professional counsellor who specialises.